Picking My Brain

At first I was intrigued by this little item.  I have been going through all kinds of wedding websites lately trying to find things I need for my wedding.  While going through the “General Wedding Decorations” at WeddingMountain.com, I found this “Reception Apron.”  My first thought was that this must be meant for some sort of reception game or tradition that I hadn’t heard of.  Intrigued, I clicked on it to see their description of it to see what in the world it would be used for.  No lie, here is their exact description:

“White, sheer polyester apron is perfect for servers at the reception and dinner.”

Wait, what?!  I’m now supposed to dictate the attire of the catering staff?!  I’ve heard of “bridezillas” trying to control every single aspect of their weddings, but this has got to be waaaaaaay over the line.  I’ve never even heard of a catering staff wearing something innapropriate to a wedding.  Besides, these things are so cheesy looking.  And tacky.  I can’t imagine anyone would mandate these as staff attire for their reception!

It’s official, we will be getting married on July 18, 2009.  The deposit has been put at the reception place.  So there’s no backing out now, not that I was going to anyway!  So the next step will be to talk to the church and see if it is available on that day and if we like the minister and such.

It was so nice to go to a bridal show yesterday with one of my friends and have an actual date to tell people when they asked when am I getting married.  For three years all I’ve been able to say was, “we’re thinking xxx.” but of course the next time I talked to someone, it was “we’re thinking yyy.”  So now it’s July 18, no matter what!

Other than maybe making reservations for the rehearsal dinner, I think that’s all we’re working on for the time being.  I’m not going to start trying on dresses until probably the fall, that way I can have a better idea of what size I’m going to be by then.  There’s no sense in trying on stuff now if I’ll (hopefully) be a couple sizes smaller by next year and might be able to pick out a completely different style of dress.  I think we might already have our florist picked out, and I know what photographer I want to use, we just have to be able to afford them!  All that’s left after that is DJ and cake.  So I think we’re doing very well.  I’m so excited now, I have some really great ideas that I think are going to be very special!

Well, after much debate and tears and various other feelings, we’ve decided on June ‘09 for the wedding. Ben and I had agreed on next February, and I felt terrible in changing my mind. True, my mother kept pushing for June and started threatening to not contribute as much monetarily if I wasn’t “reasonable.” But really, she’s not the reason I changed my mind. There were a few things that I mulled over for a long time before I approached the topic with Ben.

First, was the weather. I’ve been tracking the weather this month to get an idea of what it would be like next year. Most days were cloudy with only some sun. It was usually pretty cold. There wasn’t even much snow to make up for the cold. It was pretty miserable, and I don’t want to feel miserable over bad weather or have my guests uncomfortable during bad weather. We had that one day that was really warm a week or so ago and I had opened up the windows in the house that afternoon to get some fresh air flowing through. I felt so much happier that day and I realized that having better weather would make the whole process and everyone much happier.

The other thing was, two Sundays ago I went to a bridal show with Liesle and my Mom. When we got home we were talking about things and my mom got out her wedding album to show Liesle some of the things she was talking about. My mom noticed these two candelabras in the background of her church pictures and mentioned that she thinks the church still has them and was wondering if the church would let us borrow them. Looking through her pictures made me realize that I was planning her wedding all over again. Same color scheme, same location, same ceremony… I decided that Ben and I wanted a wedding that we could say was “us.” It would be easier to incorporate things we like if the ceremony was representative of us from the beginning, instead of trying to make my mom’s wedding mine. I also though that planning the wedding with my mom to be identical to hers, would only make her more adamant that things had to be her way.

I felt really bad that I had already had many discussions with Ben and had agreed to the February date, and now I was changing my mind. Ben was honest and told me that he was mad that I wanted to change the date to a time that he had said he absolutely did not want, but that he would get over it and I could change the date. That’s one of the reasons why I love him, he’s always honest with me and tells me exactly what he’s thinking; and I can do the same with him.
So I haven’t informed my mother of the change yet, but I’m sure she’ll be happy. I’ve also altered the color scheme slightly. I was previously thinking a light green with light pink accents, but that would mean putting either Ben or the groomsmen in pink vests and ties. At the bridal show there was also a fashion show, and one of the guys had a vest and tie in about the shade of pink I was thinking. It looked terrible. I just couldn’t see Ben in pink, or Chris and my brother in pink. So we’ve changed.

Now I’m being all secretive with everyone as to what my plans are. I think some of the fun of the wedding will be revealing my planning and decorating at the actual event, so details are being left out of the blog from now on. Don’t worry, for anyone who reads my blog who doesn’t know me “in real life,” there will be pictures. My closest friends and family will be involved in the planning, but other than that it’s a secret!